A short time ago, the daughter of Mrs. Johnson called Heart 2 Heart 4 Seniors, saying her mom seemed to have lost her “zest for life”. Her “spunk” was gone!
It was hard for her to see her senior parent becoming almost passive in her daily activities. Always tired and no longer had any energy. She had been very active in the community and church for as long as her daughter could remember, and her mom didn’t seem to be interested in anything.
Just as parents have that intuition that something is not right with their children, we too, as adult children of seniors, also have that intuition that something just is not right!
My name is Lori Royer and I am the CEO of Heart 2 Heart 4 Seniors. My team and I are what we call Senior Transition Specialists. In other words, we work closely with people like Mrs. Johnson and her daughter.
I suggested she make an appointment with her mom’s physician just to make sure there wasn’t any physical or depression diagnosis that needed to be attended to. All test were negative. Mom was in perfect health at 78.
We talked more in length about her mom’s past life. She had always been active in the library’s children’s storytime, but was having a hard time getting there since her neighbor had moved to an assisted living closer to the neighbor’s children. Her neighbor had been her transportation to the library.
Talking with Mrs. Johnson, I asked her what she liked about going to the library.
She perked up, stating, “The kids, of course!”
Asking her if she was tired those days, which consisted of 2 days a week for 2 hours each day.
“Absolutely not! I didn’t have time to be tired those days! The little ones had me hoppin’ all over the library, acting out the stories we had just read!”
Her daughter was also worried that her Mom was not eating properly and getting enough socialization with adults any longer after her neighbor had moved.
Through the following meetings and developing a care plan specific to Mrs. Johnson’s wishes and needs, we were able to find the perfect new Independent Living home for mom. We moved her into an independent living community close to her family and the church that she had been so active in. This gave her the opportunity to socialize with other seniors, help in the children’s program at the church, have nutritious meals, transportation availability, spend more time with her children and grandchildren.
That “zest for life” has returned.
She wakes up happy every day, feeling energized, needed and wanted.
Mrs. Johnson has her “spunk” back!!!
If you can’t quite put your finger on what’s going on with Mom and Dad, go with your instinct.
Don’t lose any more sleep worrying about why Mom and Dad aren’t themselves these days, and many times, they don’t want to burden you with their worries.
Sometimes, they can’t quite grasp what’s going on with their feelings themselves.
No matter our age, we all still want to feel needed and wanted. There may be times we need a little help while maintaining as much independence as possible.
Let us help you figure out how to get Mom and Dad’s “zest for life” back!